Just a thought, but I've joined a few games simply by keeping my f/l open, and when people have room in their lobby, that little curved arrow will pop up and you can
invite yourself in, even though this may take some time. Just be sure to hit the right button - I'm always sending invites to an empty lobby instead of hitting join game!
I try not to send too many "i?" messages because I know people are usually playing and not sitting in the lobby and it can be a distraction... but if I don't get an invite I just move on down the list (looking for people who aren't in the same map) because with only 9 on each side, rooms fill up quickly.
I doubt anyone is trying to avoid anyone else or play with just a certain group all the time, because I'm always seeing different people in rooms when I play.
Then again, maybe these foolios are a bunch of jerks and just think they're better than everyone else...
